Meet the founder

I got diagnosed with ADHD in August 2024. I was 38 years old at the time. I was juggling three small children, an undiagnosed ADHD partner and working 4 days a week. I was officially on a train to burnout town going at a rapidly increasing speed.  

I first realised I had ADHD during Covid in 2020. At the time I had newborn twins, a 2.5yr old and my re-adjusting hormones were ramping up my symptoms. For years I'd been told by doctors that it was anxiety. I'd tried every anti-depressant under the sun and every type of birth control and nothing seemed to help.

Like the walking cliche (and proud!) millenial that I am, I read about ADHD from an article on the Guardian website. It was like reading a check list of my life up until then.

Do you find it difficult to keep to a routine? Tick.

Do you find mundane tasks boring and continue to put them off? Tick.

Do you love starting new things but are then unable to see them through? Tick.

Do you struggle to remember things, tasks and even people and find that those things are 'out of sight, out of mind?' Tick.

Do you constantly replay conversations in your head and worry you've done or said the wrong thing? Tick.

Do you constantly under estimate how long tasks will take you? Tick.

Do you find you get really upset when things don't feel fair? Tick.

Do you often find yourself stuck, unable to move and motivate yourself? Tick.

I know know those traits to be executive dysfunction, procrastination, hyperfocus, object permeance, rejection sensitivity disorder (RSD), time blindness, strong sense of justice and adhd paralysis.

The more I then read about ADHD, the more it was like I was reading about my life to date. This explained why I always left homework until the last minute and why all my school reports said that I needed to put in more effort. Why I always felt everything so deeply and that rejection felt like physical pain. It explained why I left relationships, jobs and moved houses on whims. It explained why I found consistency so hard and why I'd spent years feeling like Jeckyl and Hyde. I was either totally on it or stuck in a pit of doom unable to move.

It came to a pinnicle when I became a Mother. All of a sudden, everything was amplified. I had more responsibilities, more juggling to do, more stress to handle, more things to worry about and more washing that I'd thought humanly possible. I had to provide routine and stability to tiny children when I couldn't even manage that for myself. I had to make sure those boring mundane tasks were done regularly whilst also holding down a job and a relationship. I also had to somehow regulate my emotions and the emotions of the little people around me. Cue OVERWHELM.

I could feel the enjoyment of motherhood slipping away from me and I was constantly questioning why I couldn't be like other Mums or why I couldn't keep it together when my kids were having meltdowns. After my diagnosis I started researching more into ADHD in women and noticed that there was a lack of research dedicated to women, and especially mothers. The standard advice for neurotypical mothers doesn't work. The standard approach doesn't work for ADHD brains. So that's why, eight years into my own motherhood journey, I decided to create ADHD Mums Club. A space for ADHD mothers to understand how their brains work, and to offer support that not only helps them navigate motherhood but also their inner child and their own children.